Men's Phsycology in An Relation Ship

I had been reading a book of Men's Phsycology and going through all, What I came to knw about them is, metioned below. But we can say 1 thing that they are so wiered in sum cases and a woman can surely cnt understand them easily because their way of xpressing things is totally contratsting to what they feel.


No relationship is perfect, and many arguments happen with a lack of understanding of what a man is really trying to tell us. This could save your relationship! This article really digs into a man’s path of thinking... Here are a few tips on what he could really be saying to you.




He says: ‘’I don’t love you, but I like you’’



What he really is saying: ‘’I’m not really ready to fall in love right now, but I am still willing to give this relationship a chance to see where it leads us. I am scared to fall in love quickly for fear of getting hurt again, and I don’t want to give you false hopes, if I’m not feeling it.



He says: ‘’Nothing has changed’’.



What he’s really saying : ‘’I wish you’d stop being insecure, it really is pushing me away from you. I may not show my emotions, but it does not mean that I am not willing to still be with you.



He says : ‘’That’s a stupid thing to say’’




What he’s really stating: ‘’I didn’t like how that came out, but if you said it in a different way, I may have responded with a better note."





He says: ‘’I’m really upset right now!’’.




What he’s really stipulating: ‘’I need alone time right now. I don’t want to take out on you, because things could get ugly. Please leave me alone, I will come around when I am feeling up for a chat’’



He says: ‘’ I will be late picking you up, I have a few things I need to accomplish before meeting up with you’’.



What he’s really saying : ‘’ I need some alone time to think, and I don’t want to be distracted by you while I am on a mission. So I really need to get things done before we can spend some quality time together, and later on my mind won’t be so distracted.



He says: ‘’ I want to quit smoking’’.




What he’s really saying: ‘’I need your support on this, because I cannot do this alone. I need you to help me the best you can.



He says: ‘’ I’m so tired, and really sore’’.



What he’s really saying: ‘’It would be nice to have a long back rub. Can you do that for me? I know this will make me feel better, and it will give me energy to give you quality loving later on’’.



He says: ‘’ It’s not you, it’s me’’






What he’s really saying: ‘’ I need to think things through, I am not ready to be in a relationship right now. So this is not going to work out between you and I’’.



He says: ‘’I will call you’’



What he really means: ‘’I am testing you, to see how independent you are, I don’t need someone to be calling me every day and all hours of the day. If I don’t call in a few days, try calling me but if I don’t call in a week after talking with you, I am not interested.



He says: ‘’I don’t want anything for Christmas, I don’t expect you to get me anything’’.



What he’s really saying. ‘’I don’t want to disappoint you, but Iam testing to see what your taste is like in gifts. However I do want something though. So surprise me.


Now the ladies, what we say and what they think...



Woman: ‘’I love you’’



What he is thinking: ‘’ I’m scared she is going to hurt me, I’m not sure if I should say it back. Do I really feel the same way, and if I do how do I express myself toward her’’?



Men have a hard time expressing their inner emotions because they were raised to be al macho like as a child. They were taught to not be a wimp in school and to fight back, when pushed. When it comes to love ad relationships, he is unsure how to really respond, as he really needs to feel it first in order to give you the response you are looking for.



Woman: ‘’I want to be with you forever, you are my everything’’.



What he is thinking: Same notion as above. He may have never experienced a woman to fall head over heels for him before, and this perhaps is new to him. He possibly is thinking. ‘Maybe this is it, maybe I finally found the one I want to be with, but I got to make sure that I love her first. But I don’t want to hurt her either’’.



Men want to take things slow, it does take a longer time for a man to fully come around. Though be careful some men are liable to be scared off.



Woman: ‘’ It just feels like you don’t want to spend as much time with me anymore’’.



What he is thinking: ‘’ Nothing has changed, but I wish you’d stop telling me this. Though I will make it up to you the best way that I can. I am not trying to avoid or ignore you, I have been extremely busy’’.



Men do NOT want to hear this kind of talk. It will push them away. They may have been busy and trying hard not to ignore you, but sometimes a lack of help from work, does cramp the relationship style.



Woman: "Are we fading away?’’



What he is thinking: ‘’I just need time for myself now and then. I am not choosing to ignore you, however, when I am distracted with work and other things in my life, I find it hard to concentrate on this relationship sometimes’’.



The stipulation is the same as above. He may need to concentrate more on his goals instead of just one thing. And that's something really good for your future, so a little co-operation can me you sail the sea...



Woman: ‘’I have a fear of abandonment’’



What he is thinking: ‘’ I cannot promise you eternal love, as nothing lasts forever. I will do my best to not hurt you. Though I will test you, to see how independent you really are, if I don’t call you for a few days. I want to see how you react. Though this phase will not last, it’s just a run test’’.



Men are not willing to hurt a woman in a relationship, though they are willing to test you and push your buttons, just enough to see if you’re willing to be apart for a few days. He will probably only do this a few times, in order to find out what you’re really like when there is low communication. Especially if he goes away on business trips, where he may not be able to communicate as much with you. Or if he suddenly has to fly off to a different country to reside.



Woman: ‘’ You are everything I have ever dreamed of’’



What he is thinking: ‘’I try my best, to make you happy. I want to make you feel this way because you are special.’’



A man may not show how he really feels when you say this to him, but really he is gloating. Don’t boost his ego up too much his head might pop ;-)




They are really confussing and they do nt seem frm outseide what exctly hey are and that reall make a womesn Pissed but hey, cum'on after knwoing them we can co-operate at times...

Up's and Downs - Life is boredom without them...

Up's and Downs in Life...

Up’s and Downs are the most normal and most complicated stages of our life and that's what makes our life worth in reality. I know, you might think that things like this are good to hear but worst to experience in life, but hey - this is my own experience and I am quite aware of those pains, depressions, exertions’ and several stuff we go through during we have our life in downs. Especially when we have our worst downs after best up’s that’s really awful and that effects our mind and life so much. It happens that we lose all the hopes from our life and where some people can cry and just make a bit of relief from what they are going through where as some people just bulk up all their pains and get on breaking from within. It happens that we come under a sudden dilemma and what we know is “I lost it!” Our hopes, faith, in fact we ourselves get lost somewhere and we don’t even have idea about that.

Life is like a roller coaster I believe. When it goes down, it does come up but here instead of butterflies and screams we have pain and cries. But hey the best thing about this rollercoaster is, when we have our Up’s we don’t get petrified – instead we are happy and sometimes that turns out to be so good that we reach cloud nine or even beyond that.

We at times even come into a feeling where in we find our self to be so lucky and extra-ordinarily special. These are best up’s and we find our life to be totally settled and smooth, but sometimes it happens that suddenly a meteor falls down and spoils everything and you feel, “Oh Shoot! My life was superb man, didn’t expect this! Why does it happen to me always? Oh! God – did you find me the only person in your world to take on sorrows?” But hey come ‘on, you can make out yourself after going back to your flashback that this game of life or almighty - whatever you believe, its amazing. It’s so interesting and it gives us meaning of living, because if we would be all happy, all the life - it wouldn’t have given you the same feeling if you wouldn’t have struggled for that happiness and same way if our whole life goes on with all the goods and no bad, it becomes quite boring and all bad and no goods makes it horrible and as said, “Everything needs to be in balance and that’s what makes it fun”

So no matter how long your life goes into downs but as soon as it catches and uproot, trust me you will be happy more than you should have been and that’s what real fun of life is. It’s quite incredible to feel what you got and that’s what you actually deserve after all your downs and yeah, it will for sure increase the value of your that present emotions and out of world feelings.

-Angel Winget

Mother (MOM)

"Mother"- The one who gives us birth after a terrific pain and suffers for 9 months conseiving us in her womb and while giving us birth she takes a pain of all the bones getting fractured at one time. After Dels of pains and suffers, she is so selfless to give us birth and dedicate her life to us. One who starts weaving a beautiful dream for her child and his/her future, one which  always finds the ways to guide her child in a right direction in a right manner and with love and intensity. Mothers are son increadible and they are the real angel, god has sent fore us, without her this whole world is going to be empty- not because she is the one who gives birth to a child, but it is beacause even though child takes birth in this world it will be nothing but a a soul with no strenght and meaning towards life, a person with no guidence and no love. She is the one who teaches us the values of life, one who guides us with principle, one show us the light to follow, one takes all the oains on herself to serve us the comfort, one who wil sleep in wet pee of ours at the middle of the night- judt to serve us from cold, one who will cry when we cry, one who will understand us when we are all mum and we pretend to be soemthing which we are not indeed, one who says,'Oh! my child, teel me what happend? Is there any problem dear? I will help you out, but don't be sad becasue the moments you spend sad and upset are the moments my heart get wound on.". 

For a mother he child is her love, her life, her trust, her faith, her soul and her everything. She trust her child more than she can trust herself but she never lets the child realize again an again how important he/ she is because just don't wnat her child to get supressed of any hard emos and what she wants is her child to be happy and lead a white pathed life. But at times it really becomes necessary for her to be hard on us, so as to guide us for where we are wrong and need to be careful, and that being hard does hurt us but it hurts more intensely to her as compared to we children. But we children always lack somewhere to serve her, that's true that we can never pay her back what she has given us eventhough we give our life to her, but we can serve her the best way just by being a good human being and being as loyal as we can. Yeah many a times, we arent able to confess our deeds and say the truth because of some understanding gap and some varies of thoughts and principles, but yeah we can afcourse try our best to be as frank and loyal as possible. Com'on we can atleast do soem thing for our angel! 

For me my mom is a best freind, a freind who knows me so well that she can understand my mood and state of mind just by a way to talk, click of fingers and looking at my face. Some times she even gets intuition when I really need her and Iam too sad to be alone. She is one of the best mothers in this world. Yeah, sometimes there some things that I cnt share with her but just give a minor hint, we do have lots of exchange of words and hurts us bith later and than we are back togather. An existence of different mentality between a mom and her child will always exist because that is something we call a genration gap. But that's all fine., that normal- it will exist in the same way between your and child and you and my child and me! That is the normal face ofthis motther and child relation. When I was a tiny tot, I used to be soo much into my mother that even living for fractions of minute was jsut impossible and than slowly I grew up, joing Kindagarten - made new freinds than started  with primary sections- secondary and thna atlast a highschool came where we come intop a teenage and where in any teen would feel that he/she is mature enough to knwoi what is right or wrong and try to beat up world all by oursleves where we are 90% wrong in our decissions :(  But hey, we do learn by ourselves that what we did was wrong and learn for the right next time ;) Here diffrence of oppinions do occur but from our side it is we who have to understand he rna dact the same way! As being a teenager, I always used to be so freeset anf used to talk to my mom eveyr weekends about what are my feelings, what do I do., What am I going through and various other thigs, I share my best possible thigs with her and rest wiht the mates and any ither person I trust the most and sometimes when I feel that there is no one to here me, there i salways one palce left for me, that is Church where in, I siit ont first bench with my hands crossly joined, closing my eyes and feel my soul and heart in a deapth and ask myself wether I have doen something worng and than aks for the same to god and at that time, whe you really do that- trust me_ it seems as if your directly connected to God up and he guides you the same way! This is the age where we sometimes or most of the times, by mistake or in unpurpose way we hurt our mothers and hell it upto us :( But after few years of my Teenage, what I realised id that our angel soemtimes finds that same old kid in us and she would never be able to see us growing and thus for her atleast being a child was not a big deal foe me. Most of the times when I am with her, I am a child who doesn't care oft he world till he/she in lap of it's mother. I act the way I used to act in my pres, secondary and Kgs; and it really really feels good to see her smile and laugh and happy wiht he rdeep heart! She is an amazing mericale that God would ahve ever doen till now.

My mother is like a song in my heart-I may forget the word but the tune always hums and I can neve forget the tune of love and light she has added to my life. Sorry for when I hurted you and Sorry for when I was bad but I Thank you for all the hardshipsa and Love.

 For those who have somewhere or some missunderstood their moms and still feel taht you were worng and she was rght, just remebr that these kind of phases are too normal and adjusting somewhere around is sameway easy because wjhat you need is to gear your understanding!!

---Angel Winget

Dreams!!!

"Dream" The most wonderful thing any one can have free of cost and gain all the happiness and virtues by it in this money dealing world. Whats wrong in seeing a beautiful and deserving dream? It's like having all the happiness in your arms and all the wishes in your eyes and the satisfaction which u get is just so real, let it be for a short term.

 Some times you win what you dream in reality and your dream becomes your power to grant you wishes and sometimes, what you dream, may not be granted true in your reality because of some conditions but it gives several short term satisfactions, excitments, happiness and even gets you on  cloud 9.

Many a times seeing dreans beyond you limits, may cause harm to you feelings when you realize that, ''Hey man! Thay was just a dream and nothing was true in any part of my reality!" You may feel unsecured and sad but  you know the same thing many a times gives a gearing power to some people, to acheive a beam of light   even in dark! They get an energising unique power that say," Hey  who the hell says that I can't leave that dream in my reality? I have an enough strong personality and I have that ability to grant those dreams if I have that mind set to enjoy those!"

  Most of the time it happens that what ever dreams you see at night, is some thing which has been going on in our  back of mind which is unconsious most of the times and you have the audiovidual view of it when u

get into a deep sleep, rejuvaniting your body and mind, the back mind is something which gives all  your deep thoughts which you might have been thinking alot about with some part of your work.You completely get lost into those dreams and you also perform some actions in your sleep unaware of what you  are doing, i.e., you may laugh out loudly unaware that you are doing so, you may start conversing about all the conversation you might be having in your dreams, etc...But don't worry,  you are no way having any sort of mantel disorder or Phsyicological problem, you are just absolutely fine and the activities which is done  in sleep is some thing which you always wanted to do in consious state but some how you were not able to and thus you perform it some how in unconsiousway!

   I am the one who is self experienced with this sort of activities and trust me, I get so lost that I even have fighting actions while sleeping, which I get informed about in the morning when I get up and share my talks on Breakfast  Table, My sis or Aaya who sleeps in the same room informs me about! But you know, its all fine and you even get stressless and many a times I have even got an idea about what I have to do in reality!

 One's it happend that a Begger was just siting in the corner of one foot path early in the morning and was staring at the cars and walkers with their Dogs. I noticed that particaular thing and felt like asking him and I did it so, "Hey good morning man! What are you thinking so deeply in early morning huh?"

He just looked at me and said that, "Girl, m looking at those rich social animals who are just totaly into their own world and don't care for any other weak points in the society!"

I felt pitty for him and asked him that, "I can understand how you might be feeling, but if you need any help than you can share it with me for a while! Do you want any kind of assistance?"

He gave me a light smile and stood up and said," hey m all fine with what so ever condition God has given me, i get food for both the times but I was just dreaming out with open eyes that, one day I will be surely at their position and will change the present defination Social Animals, that is they will be some day looking around themselves and get to know what on in the world else than theirs".

   After listening this I was like, dreams changes so many things you know! People who do not have any opportunity, and just have hope can make them able to grab all the upleading opportunities and make even minute things turn big!

  Even Late.Shree.Jawaharlal Nehru, led India'a freedom strugle & all his wishes came true through his dreams. He was a day dreamer and dreamt for so big that anyone could hardly do it and just said,"If I can dream than I know that I can do it because God gave me ability to dream and equally to Grant!"

His dream always hit the mark and thats what made his entire Biography so different I tell you!

So no matter who you are, how you are or what your, what matters is; How yoou dream and what you dream and how you feel!

  I just say is, Dream Big because  only than you can do big to grant your dreams!

                                                                                  -Angel Winget

When you meet Yourself!...

I know you didn't understand what I meant By my Title,'When you meet Yourslef!'

   

   Well, you know what; we people generaly say that we know what we are, so proudly but most of the times, we don't know what we are at that moment or ocassion and its just our brain which works on for whatever sin we are performing, wether Bad or Good and for whatever words we are giving out! Now, you might say in you mind that,. Hey cumon! Whatever we do, our mind is responsible for that! what kind of foolish and confusing talk she is on?"

  Well, I can understand your state of mind and thus let me inform you that, in purely scientific way if we take our self as a mechanical Body, than afcourse our brain is responsible for any damn activity or performance done by us, but even science accepts that there are spirits and souls present in every person; every human has its own spirit or soul! Well, in a fast life no one has that chance or time to realize about this pariticular fact of "SOUL"...

    So now I will come up on my pressurizing point of this topic,i.e., we never ask ourselves about the results and happenings of out deeds and words and thus many a times we regret for what we do in upcoming future and that becomes too late to be regreted for something and you get a weigh load that,'Oh God! Shit man, I really did something wrong and why the hell didn't I realize in early past? Hell!'

But you know what, this is of no use, because, you had to think on this before or else you atleast had to just realize for a moment about what steps are you taking on and what results may off you down!  But who has time huh? Well, for this we really need to meet ourselves and in every life span of a humanbeing, we do meet ourselves but it is too late when we would be regreting and we might really be in want of begging for apologize to someone or may be us, and this is when we are counting on our last days, because at that times we are too far away form this fast routine,life, catching on subs on its time, reaching to our work place before geting an label of late comer and so on...

Now yhou may ask, 'Again meet ourselves?What does this confusing girl mean by this?'

Well dear reader, what I mean is, meeting our self is, feeling our inner soul, merging our mind and soul, taking decisions for what our soul and mind say in a combine way, understanding at that particular moment of your action, whether what ever  you are on is right or wrong!  You meet yourslef by just not thinking about your current actions and judging them but too, you may go to a flashback and think about your past and realize your mistakes and even good sins, and you may judge yourselves form you past actions! You may sometimes realize that you spoke lies to yourslef and that was the biggest crime you must have ever done of not being loyal to you yourlsef! You may realize that you were a dog or bitch at some times and really hate your self, but inspite of every thing when you will remember about good things you did, you will even relaize that,'hooosh! M not that preity bad man! I did some good deed too and hey, every coin has two sides and every clap is made by both the hands! So no worries man!'

  And this is how you meet your self! And you may now better have understood that,

"When you meet yor self..."

(Sorry if some of my words would have been against your principles but this were to wake up the present era whic is used to it!)

 -Angel Winget

Freindship

The most beautiful relation which any one can have in their life.It decorates our life with full of joys, happiness, excitement and many other emotions.
Those are the freinds with whom we share most angles of our life and they are the one to whom we are so open that we may not be with other people playing part in our life.  
As everything needs an understading, this also requires for same amount of understanding. Undesrtanding in case of, their situation, our temper, relation between us and the bond which we share, for the complications which one have and the other has to react accordingly, etc...But the most important thing you need to have in here is Trust, which is as necessary in other part of relations.Once the trust is broken, everything will be worst than death and you may feel that you lost something so precious and meanful to you that you might not be able resist what you are living with. But at the same time, faith is as much important to have on eachother. It is somthing ;like a thread which as strong as you create will take all the difficulities but as soon as it gets weak and torn out, it will break one day and the day it breaks and as much knots you get it, it will have a knot which will not be as smooth as you had it before. You can say that trust and faith are the pillares for the jewel of our life, freindship.

Harmful Love!!

When We have someone's Love it makes us live a whole life in a moment and that's the prttiest moment of your whole life but when our love leaves us we leave a moment of life which just has sorrows...Thus love is the most pleasent thing in  your life and the most painful thing too...You may jst exerience one either or can experiance both togather!!

- Angel Winget

The broken Hearts always have one thing to talk with themselves hoping their heart breakers may hear...That's;"If u remeber our love wasn't the mean to be broken it was somehting that we were going to succeed it with trust; faith; loyality; Love and selfless Hopes! We lived it for several moments which were evry beautiful but you broke it in just one moment and those unexpected words of your broke a heart; Hope; Trust; Life; and mean to smile in a moment wining those sevral ones...Was it that easy for u to break my heart by saying those bitter words as hard it was for me to believ those.."

- Angel Winget

A person with a broken heart is noone else than a dead heart and body with a living breathe of no hopes..Thus it's better not to commit a heart to someone beacuse u will be Killing a lovable person forever and ever...

- Angel Winget